A message to all the new parents

The beautiful creation of God, the perfect contrast of mischief and innocence is the only way one can describe kids. But very often children are confused with opportunities for their parents to fulfill, and their young weak shoulders are burdened with duties, responsibilities and a huge load of expectations. We often mishandle our children and force them to work hard or study hard, we compare them with other students and we make them score good grades and follow the mainstream path without realizing that every child is special. Each child comes with his own qualities, and instead of helping him in polishing those skills, we force our own children to not stand outside the box. Aspiring to be unique and special to shine bright, parents condescend their vision and actions when they compare the mark sheets of others with their children’s, they create a controversy. What they do not understand is that, random digits on a paper cannot showcase their talent and qualities; their thoughts, ideas and imagination would when they would flow out of an instrument fitting.

Children are not property nor are they your investments, if they are; you are ruining God’s creations. Your children need care and it is important for you to know what care is. To educate the children and protect them from good and bad is not care. Caring has a healing power, it is essential to be caring in every relationship especially in a fragile relation of a parent and a child; it is to assure your children that you will always be there to help them. A warm hug, a kiss on their foreheads, to express that you care, to tell them that you love them and always will no matter what. Welcome your children with all their problems and build a trust that even if they fall you will catch them. No matter how old you may grow or how many times they fail, you will still love them with no conditions applied.
To let them free is to care, giving your children all the colors but supporting them when they paint their own rainbow with non-traditional colors is to care. Do not feel disgraced by the choice of your children for each one feels differently and choose as they feel.

When a child is born with that parents take birth too; and even though they all are different they are all equally special. To nurture them and to let them freely grow is what a parent needs to do. Being scared for your children is not a solution, for you in turn may end up killing your children’s dreams and hopes, with their vision fading; every child has an imagination that blooms in Technicolor, do not paint it over in black and white. They are God’s beautiful creation to be let free and fly high, let them dream and follow them. You will be taking baby steps with your children and a leap in God’s name.